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Welcome to another By Bonnie blog, our first in this new year, where we talk about all things diamonds! 

Okay, let me just say... what the eff?! Some of these comments are absolutely caliente! You guys are cracking me up. But seriously, welcome back to my channel! I’m Bonnie, your go-to for all things sparkly and fabulous.

Today, we’re mixing it up with a little fun—yes, we’re diving into some Q&A, tackling a few trolls (you know who you are), and just kicking off the year with some good vibes. Ready to have a little fun? Of course, you are. Let’s get into it!

Are Anniversary Sets Wasteful?

Alright, let’s dive right into our first troll comment of the year:

Oh, honey... let me just sip my tea for a second. It’s called living life. It’s called celebrating your milestones! Life is about growth, evolution, and marking those special moments.

Listen, when you’re 18, you might drive a Honda Civic (nothing wrong with that, love my Civics!), but as you grow older, work hard, and hit those big achievements, you want to enjoy the fruits of your labor, right? Maybe upgrade to that luxury car—or in this case, a gorgeous new ring!

It’s not wasteful; it’s a celebration of how far you’ve come. And trust me, for so many people, a jewelry upgrade isn’t just about the bling—it’s about the story, the love, and the meaning behind it. So if you’re happy with your original ring, great! But don’t rain on someone else’s sparkle

Celebrate your milestones, babe. You’ve earned it.

Do Lab-grown Diamonds Not Hold Value?

Alright, let’s tackle troll number two:

Oh, honey, let me just start with this: We’ve been over this. There are countless blogs, videos, and discussions about lab-grown versus natural diamonds. This is not breaking news. Data shows that more and more people in the U.S. are choosing lab-grown diamonds, and they’re doing it because they want to—not because someone told them what’s “right.”

And this whole “holding value” argument? Let’s keep it real. I read a story about a guy who, in 2021, bought a brand-new Tesla for $140,000. Yes, $140,000! That’s not pocket change, right? Fast forward two years—he goes back to Tesla to trade it in for a new one, and guess what they offered him? $46,400. Yep, he lost nearly $100,000 in two years. And this man took to TikTok, like, “Look at this! I lost all this money!”

But tell me—where’s the outrage about cars not holding their value? Or flat-screen TVs? Or the latest iPhone that depreciates the moment you walk out of the store? People spend their money on what makes them happy, whether it’s a natural diamond, a lab-grown diamond, or a fancy handbag. And guess what? That’s their business, not yours.

So let me say this loud and clear: Mind your own sparkle. How people spend their hard-earned money is entirely up to them. If a natural diamond is your vibe, fabulous. If lab-grown is your pick, amazing. If you want to skip diamonds altogether and buy a kayak instead, go for it! Life is too short to worry about someone else’s choices.

At the end of the day, the only value that matters is the joy it brings you.

Is My Channel Toxic?

Alright, next troll! And honestly, this is why I try not to read comments sometimes, but here we are.

Oh, honey, toxic? Let’s clear a few things up right now. First of all, that is just flat-out not true. I talk about proportions, lifestyle, personal preferences, and most importantly—budget. People come to me every single day, sit in my showroom, and say, “Bonnie, what looks best on me?” And I give them my honest opinion.

Yes, I personally love big diamonds. I talk about them all the time—because guess what? That’s my passion, and this is my channel. It’s called By Bonnie Jewelry for a reason. It’s my space where I educate, inspire, and share what I love.

And let me tell you why I talk about larger diamonds: there’s this thing called the shrink factor. New diamond buyers don’t always understand this, so let me break it down for you real quick.

When I was 16 or 17, I was lucky enough to get a one-carat diamond ring from my mom. At that age, I thought, Oh my gosh, this is the biggest diamond in the world! It felt so luxurious. But as time went on, my taste evolved. What I thought was big back then? Now, it feels smaller to me. That’s life—our tastes and experiences change.

It’s the same with everything: food, fashion, even travel. Things that once seemed extraordinary might not feel that way after a while. And that’s okay! It’s part of growing and experiencing more of the world.

So when I talk about larger diamonds, it’s not because I’m trying to push anyone to buy something they can’t or don’t want. It’s because I want my clients to think about their long-term satisfaction. If a larger diamond feels right for you and fits your budget, then go for it. If not, that’s perfectly fine too!

The only rule here? Wear what makes YOU happy.

Alright, moving on—let’s dive into some Q&A! Who’s ready for some diamond wisdom?

When People Ask If Your Ring is Natural Or Lab-Grown

Hey girl, first of all, thank you for loving my page! I’m so glad you’re here, and oh wow, what a caliente question—let’s get into it.

So, your question was about how to navigate those awkward conversations when people ask if your diamond is lab-grown. You love your ring (as you should!), but you feel a little judged when they ask. I get it. This one hits a nerve because, let’s be honest, there’s still a stigma around lab-grown diamonds, and that stigma usually comes from—you guessed it—judgy people who really just need to mind their own business.

Here’s my advice:

 

1. Mind Your Own Business

If someone is pressing you about your ring, the first thing I’d say (in my head, of course) is: mind your own business! Honestly, why does it matter so much to them? This is like me at a family dim sum lunch when some random auntie or uncle asks me, “How much money do you make?” Um, hello? How about starting with, “How are you?” or “How’s your day going?” Instead, they’re out here comparing salaries and flexing like it’s a competition.

It’s the same vibe when people ask about your diamond. They’re projecting their insecurities onto you, so don’t let it rattle you.

2. Own It with Confidence

If you feel comfortable, just tell them, “Yes, it’s lab-grown, and I absolutely love it! It’s perfect for me. What about you?” By flipping the question back on them, you keep it casual and move the focus off of you. Plus, it shows you’re proud of your choice—and you should be!

3. Normalize It
Think about it this way: remember when online dating was a “taboo” thing? People used to whisper about meeting their partner on Tinder or Match.com like it was some big secret. Now? It’s totally normal. Technology evolves, culture evolves, and so do our choices. Lab-grown diamonds are a part of that evolution. They’re sustainable, beautiful, and here to stay.

4. Let It Roll Off

At the end of the day, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Whether your diamond is lab-grown, natural, or you’re rocking a sapphire, what matters is you love it. So next time someone asks, feel free to give them the short and sweet, or just smile and change the subject.

And girl, let’s be real: the only thing that should sparkle more than your diamond is your confidence. Shine on!\

This Is What My Channel Is About!

You guys! Oh my gosh, this one right here is my absolute favorite! 

YES! This is exactly what my channel is all about: education, empowerment, and making it fun! I’m here to put the knowledge right in front of you so you can make an informed decision, whether you’re shopping online, visiting my showroom, or picking out a ring halfway across the world.

We need more diamond education out there—and more fun times, obviously. Because let’s be real, choosing the diamond of your dreams should be just as exciting as wearing it. That’s what By Bonnie is all about: empowering you to sparkle your way, your style, your choice.

Fluorescence In Natural Vs. Lab-Grown Diamonds

Alright, you guys, this one is SO good! I don’t get to talk about this one enough, so let’s dive in. 

Okay, here’s the geeky gemologist side of me coming out! Personally, I use fluorescence as one of my quick little tricks to tell if a diamond is natural or lab-grown. And let me tell you, I love fluorescence. You’ve probably seen those articles warning you away from diamonds with fluorescence, but honestly, I think that’s just a bit overdramatic.

I’ve seen plenty of diamonds with fluorescence that actually make the diamond look brighter, whiter, and even MORE sparkly. It's like a little extra dance of light for the eyes. Seriously, it’s magical! Fun fact: My own personal ring has fluorescence, too!

Now, I want you to check this out. Take a look at the clips I’ve put together. One diamond is natural, and the other is lab-grown. If you’ve ever walked into a club with a blue light and noticed your white T-shirt glowing—yeah, it’s kind of like that!

So, to answer the big question: Yes, lab-grown diamonds can have similar fluorescence to natural diamonds, but not all lab diamonds are made the same. Over the years, I've noticed that most lab-grown diamonds don’t actually have fluorescence, but hey, it’s always a cool little factor to consider when you’re choosing your diamond.

Diamonds are unique, no matter how they’re created, and that’s what makes them so special! 

What Else Would You Like To Know?

Oh, did you have fun with this blog? Because I personally had a blast! Now, let me ask you—what juicy questions or topics do you want to dive into in my next blog? I seriously love hanging out with you all like this. It’s more than just my passion for diamonds (which, let’s be real, is pretty much everything), but I really cherish connecting with YOU. So, drop your thoughts and let’s keep this party going!